Friday, 25 October 2013


ALL THAT GLITTERS

 (Photos by Zahra A.)

 

Top & Skirt: Tibi/ Bag: Valentino/ Heels: Nine West/ Sunnies: Christian Dior

 

Many of you know my friend Zahra as the peasant photographer for roxthefox.com. Besides performing my bidding in the pictorial department, Zahra also offers me advice, from time to time, on the outfits that she helps photograph. In this particular case, Zahra retorted that the proportions of my entire attire were so off and ill-fitting (abstract clothing anyone?) that it would never attract any member of the Y-chromosome species. This incident immediately reminded me of an article written by Pheobe about dressing to please men, which I share below:

 

"Recently, I speculated about the relationship between, on the one hand, the ubiquity of ever-younger, ever-thinner high-fashion runway models, and, on the other, the male gaze.  The runway waif is not what most men would consider ideal, but most men probably do want (or feel they ought to want) women thinner and younger than are readily available to them. The waif is thus chosen not as a type with a great sex appeal to men, but rather as an exaggerated version of what insecure women feel they ought to look more like, for Society, but also, in more banal terms, for men.

In other words, even if we can readily agree that high fashion is not about pleasing men, it does not exist in an entirely unrelated sphere. The image of the preadolescent gamine isn't a straightforward reflection of What Men Want, or, for that matter, of what women want to look like, but more like a distorted one. It's not, as popularly understood, that the high-fashion build is something that women or gay men happen to prefer. It's about selling clothes, perfumes, a brand, and the typical female consumer probably does think she'd be more attractive if younger and thinner.

But we are meant to understand that fashion (and no, Victoria's Secret, despite the runway format, doesn't count) is about women trying to impress other women, or, in more homophobic than misogynistic interpretations, about women adhering to the oppressive standards set for them by some cabal of gay men. Straight men, meanwhile, are more than happy to explain, at every opportunity, that they don't care if women wear high heels or makeup. In fact, enlightened beings that they are, they're concerned for the women who spend unnecessary time and money on their appearances, who go around uncomfortable. They will tell us that they prefer a natural-looking woman (a 22-year-old bikini model) to an overly done-up one (a 45-year-old with whom they'd actually have a shot at getting a date).

They will ignore that, in telling us this, they're missing the broader picture, which is that women need not make all or any such choices according to what will please men. There are a good number of women out there who are for whatever reason (monogamously coupled, single but not looking, lesbian) not particularly trying to attract any men sexually; of the subset of women who are, there's no reason to think they care what you, random dude on the Internet, would go for.

My earlier thoughts on this topic were that high fashion serves as a break of sorts from the male gaze. That it's liberating, kind of, to wear your nails blue, your hair pink, your heels chunky (and for those not big on fashion, these things may sound "alternative," and certainly didn't originate on the runways, but they all make their way there), because it looks cool, heck, because you saw it on a fashion blog, but not because it will increase your appeal to the opposite sex. I thought that Leandra Medine made a good, if poorly-executed, point.

But there are those pesky caveats. "Man-repelling" clothes are never actually about repelling men. They're about partially obscuring conventional "natural" beauty under an unconventional artificial exterior, as Medine herself admits. "Ugly" looks are about the contrast - the more out-there the clothes, the less out-there the features of the woman wearing them. For most women, a short enough skirt is more than adequate. But it's the rare woman who can have a line out her door while in sweats, or, for that matter, avant-garde high fashion. The miniskirt, the carefully-applied makeup, the perfectly-done hair, these signal, in this framework, that one is not in possession of traits that, alas, are destined to allure.

So is it no-win? Dress to please men, and you're dressing to please men. Dress not to please men, and you're really just distinguishing yourself from the kind of women who require a looks-boost from their artifice, announcing that you're so good-looking that you can get away with pink eyeliner and frizz. A bind indeed. The obvious answer would be to simply not phrase things in terms of the male gaze, but surely that's too straightforward."


Thoughts?




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140 comments:

  1. I posted a quote earlier this week that sort of go with the feel of the post and your outfit (see Wednesday post if you like). As for the outfit - a) I do think men would like it because you look like a beautiful present, b) if men don't like an outfit, a woman can take it off and I bet there will be very few men afterwards who will be able to resist. ;) x

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  2. nice pics|!! ;-)

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  3. OMG!! You're fantastic adore your shoes just to die for !!

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  4. Amazing post!

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  5. very good article...and I like that there is no real conclusion to it, but it it kind of left open...Hm, I think it is true that women often dress for men and usually in a different way than they dress for women, but at the same time I think (or at least hope) that there are those times in our life when we dress for ourselves, because the clothes we're wearing gives us some kind of satisfaction...and that clothes may not be comfortable or it may not be...may be fashionable or it may not be...

    It is interesting that most of the men (if not all) that have ever hit on me have expressed their views about my clothes (and I mean fashion unrelated people like myself)...and said how they like my style and my clothes...I'm always surprised at how much attention man pay to details like nail-polish and make up and well fashion and clothes...more than you would guess.

    Fashion is often (if not always) a form of communication...and nothing happens without a reason...but sometimes also there isn't some deep wisdom behind the choices we make fashion-wise...sometimes it is just... look shinie me likei or something like that- and that's fine too.

    Now, about the outfit...I really like it, I love midi skirts...I like that top and I like the sunnies and the shoes, it reminds me a bit of the old Hollywood glamour.

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  6. Amazing look! The shoes are sick! xx

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  7. Fabulous outfit, you look like a beautiful mermaid)) Thank You for sharing such a nice post! Those photographs are fantastic, well done!
    Wish you a blessed day ahead!

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  8. Wow, i love your outfit so glitter <3
    Kiss Jeny

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  9. Fantastic look! This outfit is really fabulous!
    kisses)

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  10. Me encanta el look!!
    Saludos
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  11. Super gorgeous! Love those pumps!!!
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  12. Wow, the fabric of this outfit is insane!!! what is it?

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  13. I think the whole discussion does a disservice to men. Like if all men ever want to women to look a certain way. don't think that is true. Sure if you dress a certain way you will attract the fleeting gaze. But to really catch a man's attention, it is not about ugly or pretty clothes. Not with the men that count anyway. And that said I think that the men that count would be very interested in you, thinking who is this girl? Can I ever live up to her? Haha!
    Simona Lake&Moon

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  14. I definitely agree with your statement about how fashion and overall looks choices are seen differently from women and men's view. I find that something like how you dress yourself is very different from many fashion bloggers, looks not many men may compliment or find appealing based on what they consider 'beautiful' or attractive. However it depends on your intent at the end of the day and how you feel about your choices!

    I love your teal glitter skirt, I'd wear it with a white tank and short coatie. I'm no where as bold as you can be but I think you pull it off wonderfully. I'd want to steal those sunnies from you if I were near!

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  15. Wow, the shimmer is gorgeous! You look like a mermaid :)

    -Jen

    www.vibrantbeautyblog.com

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  16. thanks for reposting that! interesting read.

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  17. Wow, great post indeed! I always love reading your blog ;)

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  18. metallic color blocking? hell yes!

    xx

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  19. you look so fab! :)

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  20. very nice outfit :)

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  21. Oof, I'm not even going to tackle the article... Too much going on there! But I do love the metallics and those glasses are amazing! Dress for yourself- unless you want to dress for others, then knock yourself out :)

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  22. love ur blog, would u like to follow each other?
    following you now

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  23. Fashion has different meaning to different people. Some people consider wearing the wackiest and tackiest of clothes as fashion and some consider polished and classy as fashion. To each there own. And as for wearing it for men, or being man repelling, I think the idea itself is kind of repulsive to me. While I totally understand that appearences matter significantly, but if a man cannot get past the outter shell of a women and feel inclined to dig deeper about her true self, then i say, such men should be repelled.On the other hand If I were to ever wear something absolutely hideous which has no style, or fashion sense, I know my man will tell me that, and I would want him to. I will not step out of the house in something that would embarrass, for what ever reason,the person I am stepping out with. While contradicting, but the contrary is also true, that I believe, those who do not put too much thought on dressing up, are probably a tad bit more confident and could care too hoots about what the world thought of her. But to me, if a women dresses crazy and is confident to step out, more power to her, just dont expect me to shower praises on her, for her outfit, nor expect to emulate the style to enhance m inner confidence. Thats just me.

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  24. you look beautiful roxxy! i love your outfit, heels and those sunnies! so sharp! so many different men. they're all looking for different things. just wear what you love and the right one will bite ;)
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  25. Hahaha you are the best Rox.....& I guess only YOU can rock a double (& even triple) serving of glitter & pomp!!!! I hope to see you here in LA!!!!!

    Rebecca
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  26. whoa, im glad i just had my 4th cup o joe to read this a. i lurve the proportions of your ensemble b. this article appeals to me on several levels bc after hitting 25 I realized I feel way sexier in "man repelling" outfits and c. as far as men go....who the hell knows what they want....im pretty sure they dont even know what they want. you look stunning as usual :)
    brooke @ tigers dont lose sleep

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  27. love your skirt and bag! you look gorgeous <3

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  28. Love this article. I feel like we all want to dress for men or women never for ourselves.
    But why dress for others. I love your boxy unflattering outfit : )
    It's all about wearing what you love and if you love it your look gorgeous because you
    feel gorgeous.

    xo,
    Cindi
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  29. Such a great outfit! I love it:)

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  30. oh dear u look very amazing <3

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  31. This is such an eye catching look! Reminds me of minerals glittering on a cave wall.
    -Jamie
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  32. Hunni I dress how I feel at any given moment. If it attracts men...okay (although that's not always a good thing) and if I get more ohhs and ahhs from the female species.....okay. In the end I do what I believe looks great on me.....at that moment (sometimes when I'm reviewing old photos I'm quite disturbed at my choice of 'look of the day'). LOL!

    Love the colors in this look. So chic!

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  33. Hmmm food for thought indeed! I'm not really sure how to respond, it's kinda left me a little dumbstruck. I dress for myself more than anything. I've never really dressed to impress guys and if I am feeling like some male attention I do it in the form of a low cut top or suggestive buttoned down shirt thing not short shorts where my ass cheeks hang out. When I think of man repelling I think of looser forms, well the majority of sartorial pieces out there anyway can be considered man repelling since guys out there just want it tight and short LOL! We can't win and if we keep focusing on trying to dress to impress eventually you'll tire yourself out and really you'll just blend into the faceless fashion crowd of Zara skorts and IM sneakers!

    Wear whatever the f*** you want. Simple.
    SDMxx
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  34. First of all, I'd like to thank your words towards me, while I had no inspiration to write! But now I am back! And I loved your post as usual. For me, you look great, not in the least wearing something that people - not men, people in general - wouldn't like. I found you very beautiful and chic, and what counts is that I think you have amazing thoughts in your inner world. But thoughts on the article, alas - I think it's quite accurate, BUT not everybody dress for this or that person or gender. I may be odd and inelegant, but I dress to feel comfortable in my skin - a cliche, but that is ultimately it :) Hope you are fine! denisesplanet com

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  35. Well it goes without saying that all that glitter is gorgeous on you. But I particularly LOVE how you paired it with those dramatic sunglasses! Very cool.

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  36. What a great look! Those shoes go perfectly and I also love what you did with your hair. So pretty and stylish! Love it. I'm obsessed with the glitter!
    <3
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  37. This article is brilliant! I definitely went through a stage in high school of wearing itty bitty skirts and tight tops to impress boys, before I realized that absolutely nothing in my closet translated to my personal expression. All of my clothes were for the satisfaction of boys! So I got rid of everything and started over. And I have to say, I feel my absolute sexiest when I wear the so-called "man repelling" clothes. I like to wear trousers, oxfords, and blazers. I like to wear oversized sweaters instead of a bandage dress. Dressing for myself makes me feel empowered!

    Xo, Hannah

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  38. I say wear what makes you feel confident! Who cares if it repels men? I think you've got a knack for mixing bold colors and silhouettes and I love it :)

    Aloha from Hawaii,
    Jenn from Cao Bella

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  39. For me personally fashion is kind of entertainment. I am always impressed by a well-dressed woman and maybe sometimes I try my best to look good to impress othe people (generally female creatures who pay attention on this). But as long as I am straight (hah) my only aim is to look good at any place in any situation in front of people (read men). I'm not sure if man repelling clothes look as good as a mini skirt, but I don't care. I feel sexy when I'm comfortable, even when wearing sipmly a shirt and jeans, and I'm more than 100% people see that.

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  40. cool perfect look!
    Following u<3

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    xx

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  41. When you confront these unfortunate realities of fashion, getting dressed in the morning does become a chore :) I think there is a lot to be said for discussing why we dress the way we do, and why some of us put so much effort into our look when the end result is essentially the same as if we wore sweatpants - the world will judge us based on how we look, no matter what our thought process was when putting together an outfit. I do think straight women need to stop considering gay men authorities on fashion; gay men are not born with any kind of inherent sense of style or understanding of the female body that women themselves don't have. The idea that women should seek the approval of their gay friends with their fashion choices is as silly as the idea that they should dress to please straight men. Personally, I dress for myself. No one else. But I do it with the knowledge that the world will judge me no matter what I put on. And for the record - I judge this outfit fabulous :)
    xox,
    Cee

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  42. the whole reason i love fashion is because it's just such a subjective thing. everyone has a different idea of what fashion is / should be - which totally justifies why your photographer thinks your outfit is ill-fitting - but to you it's a good outfit, which is why you chose to wear and share this with us, and that's all that should really matter in the end ;) love the colours here!

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  43. What I love so much about your style is that you're never afraid to be bold and expressive. At the end, I don't think it's what women wear that repel men as much as one's attitude. Someone could be the most beautiful, well dressed woman in the world... with the nastiest personality and attitude, and to me that is the most repulsive of all!
    Hope all is well!!
    Christy
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  44. I personally think that people (not necessarily women, both genders are guilty) who dress for the opposite sex feel an obligation to do so because they feel that they themselves are not enough. I think that this even includes “man-repelling” because at the end of the day this means dressing for the opposite sex to cause an emotional response and not necessarily a positive one but still a response from other people.
    Dressing like one does not give a shit is, on the other hand, different. You know when you go to the local convenience store to grab milk on a Sunday morning and can’t even be bothered to wash your face, not to mention even THINK about CONSIDERING an outfit. That is true repelling and it’s true to the core because the repeller doesn’t really care that the wool beanie on his/her head is actually a sock knitted by grandma. However, there is a separate blog for this sort of things, called poorly dressed.
    Who do we dress for? Well, I will not wear this huge crown of self-confidence and say, hell ya’ll it’s all for me me me. It’s not always true. If I go meet my parents, I will dress for them just so they know that I am not running around in miniskirts in winter freezing my backside. I will often dress for work because I have to. There are more instances like that. But one thing’s for sure, when I dress for me me me, you will see it on my blog. It is, after all, a creative outlet.
    How amaze is your super metallic outfit? Loving it.
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  45. It's like you did ombre with this look and I love this! I never dress for a man anymore, but I used to. Now that I am married, I wear whatever I want and my husband doesn't always like it, but fashion is not always desired by men as the best fashion is not loved by straight men unfortunately. LOL!

    xx Easy Outfits, by Pip

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  46. wow you looks so amazing!!!! love the whole outfits. love your blog so much <33 mind to follow each other?

    xx,
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  47. To simplify it all--it comes down to how you feel. But if I had to interject my opinion, you look fantastic :)

    -Fifi Phi

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  48. This is always a discussion in fashion, especially recently. I myself wear what I wear, always have, and to be honest, it doesn't bother me much at all if my bf, friends, co-workers, or the guy/girl at Starbucks doesn't like what I am wearing. Unfortunately, though we are all under judgement and criticism when it comes to our threads, whether we think we are fashionable or not. A person forms an opinion about another's dressing for being trendy, bold or alternatively dressed, or if they are dressed smart or with head-to-toe labels, etc. Who do we dress for? Who knows, maybe ourselves, perhaps some do for other men/women ... Sometimes, it may be circumstantial, for expressive happiness, or it might just be the fact that you just don't feel like putting on something that needs a full-on ironing that day, which on those days, I tend to head straight for the knitwear! :-) You look absolutely stunning!

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  49. Thanks for sharing these links, the post on What Would Phoebe Do was interesting, there are lots of aspects I've never thought about.

    Your photos look beautiful by the way, the outfit is amazign and the silhouette and fit of the pieces is awesome too, no matter if it's appealing for men or not ;)

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  50. Wow stunning outfit, you look amazing bella! Come check out my new giveaway for Miss Dior Cherie http://www.lovebetweentheracks.com/2013/11/miss-dior-cherie-giveaway.html. Maybe we could follow each other on gfc and bloglovin?

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  51. First of all: I'm so sorry for not being here such a long time :-/ ... Really missed you and your amazing, colorful styles. It's always such a pleasure to admire your pics - they're always so powerful and full of joy of life. Looking forward to see you more often again in the future :-) ... - Kisses from Vienna,

    Katja

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  52. amazing! and your bag, to die for!

    <3

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  53. great style! great photos!very original!
    shall we follow?
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  54. My two cents, I do both. Typically I dress for myself and what makes me happy and other times I throw on a comfy sweater and boyfrined jeans cause I know my fiance loves me with casual clothes and no makeup. However, I don't find anything wrong with dressing to please others in certain situations. It all depends. For example, some time you dress for your friends cause you don't want to be the girl who is trying too hard, sometime you dress for your parents because you're going to church, so forth and so on. So I think it all depends.

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  55. this outfit is so cool!! you look like a futuristic mermaid, haha if that makes sense :)

    kim
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  56. i love this outfit. the shiny colors remind me a little of a mermaid but in a good way. it's so pretty!

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  57. I love this outfit, the skirt is beyond amazing! And thanks for sharing such an interesting article, food for thought indeed!

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  58. wow these photos are stunning! and i love love love the outfit, so eyecatching and chic! you did an amazing job styling all these pieces, perfection!

    X

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  59. I love the skirt!! I am now following you :) I thought I was already but I guess not :( come follow back and check out my new post! XOXO
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  60. OMG this outfit is so stunning
    Love the colors


    Lots of love,

    April

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  61. This article is amazing.
    And this outfit is so different but so charming.

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  62. Gorgeous as always, Rox! It looks warm where you are. It's freezing here in Ohio! xo T. http://tickledpinkwoman.blogspot.com

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  63. The colour looks so good on you!

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  64. Following each other is a really good idea! I really like your blog and from now I will visit it more often! I'm your new follower on bloglovin and GFC!

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  65. I love your green pumps, they're gorgeous!
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  66. I think the outfit you are wearing is beautiful. Great pictures too.
    And I think we shoudn't dress with the intention to impress anyone but more of for ourselves. No one should define whether this is a good or bad outfit other than you evaluating yourself. When you feel confident with what you are wearing, naturally people will be attracted to you.

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  67. Hi dear, you have such a lovely blog! Maybe we can follow each other on GFC and on the other social networks?! Let me know, i’ll following u back with pleasure :) ♥

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  68. Great post!! I always love your outfits and this one is no exception! I especially like how well your makeup goes with the colors in the outfit, they all really standout :)

    xoxo

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  69. Perfect set and heels match!

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  70. Wow, what an amazing look!

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  71. Zahra does such an amazing job, you are so lucky to have her! The cut of your outfit isn't the most figure flattering, but the fabric sure makes up for it. I say always dress for yourself and forget the rest :D sparkle2day.com

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  72. Where have you been? I miss your posts, pictures and stories! Anyway, I hope you are fine and that you have a great weekend! Enjoy it and have fun! denisesplanet com

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  73. Gorgeous colors!! I love this look.
    You look like a mermaid <3
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  74. Hi thank you so much for your comment on my blog and I am really sorry for take so long to answer... But I would love to follow each other of course. Actually I am follow you right now, hope you follow back
    Kisses

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  75. i remember i had a boyfriend once and we were getting ready to leave one morning and i couldn't "find anything to wear," this was a long time ago. anyway he said "let me pick something for you" . . . he picked out this long and ugly maxi skirt (i don't know why i owned the thing i was repelled when he brought it out), it was rayon and had a sort of cheap tie dye/indigo print on it and it had this terrible sheen. then he pulled out this vintage sheer long-sleeved shirt that was white and orange with some toile type print. of course he suggested i wear nothing under the sheer shirt. it was at that moment i was like "okay, i never, ever dress the way you would like me to, nor will i ever." after that i decided men (most men) have no clue about fashion on women and i simply do not dress for them at all. it was a really freeing moment. no more stress about what kind of clothes guys like. xo ps i love this outfit!

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  76. Lovely blog. stay in touch??
    Lets follow each other??

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  77. First of all, I love this overall glittery outfit and I really do love the odd proportions! I'm a fan of quirky and quite out-there outfits despite that I'm not able to wear them myself because, well, they just are never suitable to the place I currently live in. Given a chance to move elsewhere, I think I just might. Anyway you look divine!
    Secondly, thanks for sharing this article. I was entertained by it and it's really good food for thought. I like that it's open ended so there's room for opinions. For me, I like to think that I dress for myself on most occassions, and for the blog. I get satisfaction out of having a nice collection of photos of myself in differnt outfits so I guess I'm somewhat vain. But on some occassions I do dress up to attract men... and whevever I do, in fact I notice that I dress up differently, not in a way that I would on a regular basis or not the way I would dress up for the blog. It's always different. I guess we can't really generalize our purpose of dressing. There will always be occassions when we dress up for something/someone or for ourselves.

    Well, cheers Roxy! Great post!

    xo, Carla
    www.CarlaViolet.com

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  78. I love posts that make you think.
    In this case I usually dress for me, I have to like it - and then comes the rest. Wether it be men or women, you dress for all who lay their eyes on you.

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  79. How Gorge ‼ ღ

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  80. I just wanted to say that I really enjoy your blog! Keep up the great work ♡

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  81. Fabulous glitter outfit! Your hair is gorgeous!

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  82. Totally in love with this look!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  83. I'm a bit worried, no more posts... I hope that you busy having fun then! denisesplanet com

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  84. Love the look & that handbag!

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  85. I've missed you! You look amazing. I'm crazy about anything sparkly or metallic! You rock the look!
    xo
    Sharon

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  86. You look awesome, perfectly styled look!
    BTW, I've received my new Balenciaga cut-out boots alternatives! You won't have to sell a kidney if you like them ;)
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  87. Hi darling, is everything all right? I haven't seen you blogging for a while. I hope all is good with you. Christmas is just around the corner. If I didn't speak to you after this, I'm wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year =)

    P.S. Hey, if you have some time, do drop by and give support to join our giveaway. We're giving out an iPad Air to a lucky winner for Christmas. You could be the lucky one too =)

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  88. The two glitter pieces together make quite a statement! :) They look rather lovely :)

    Certainly a well written article that you have included too. I think, at the end of the day, we all dress the way we do for a multitude of reasons, not everyone thinks the same. As long as we are happy, it doesn't matter what the proportions or silhouettes of our outfits are :)

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  89. As Betsey Johnson famously said: 'Girls do not dress for boys. They dress for themselves, and of course, for each other. If girls dressed for boys, they would be naked all the time'. Great article :)

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  90. I think half of dressing for ourselves, the compliments we get also boost our confidence! But I wouldn't change my style just for anyone! You look so pretty! I love the color scheme!

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  93. Wow, so shiny! xx

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  95. haha i love this! it reminds me of the movie a woman is a woman where the main male character says something to the female character along the lines that he doesn't like her plaid skirt, to which she replies, "good, i'm not trying to please anyone." hahah! personally, i dress for myself, and if guys like it then good for them. if not, it's not going to make me change! and i think you look fab!
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  96. Love this electric style and you sunglasses are amazing! :)

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  97. i love the outfit! you look great! :)
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  98. This outfit is just all kinds of crazy beautiful! :)

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  99. Well fashion is fashion. I mean, as someone commented above, it means different things to different people. It is about individuality as it is for our social content as human beings; after all, we have to relate with other people and socialise. Fashion is meant as a way to express ourselves, and that includes our social content. If we are relating with men we are going to care somewhat what they think of us, at least just so we can react in a way about how they relate. In a way, either if you dress to attract men or if you dress to repel them or if you dress for other women... isn't it all the same? we are dressing to preserve our bodies, but most importantly we are dressing for other people to see us, to see a part of our personality and the mood we are into that day, and for them to understand ourselves by a first impression and act around us based on that. It doesn't really matter if it is a man, a woman, your mother or the neighbour, you dress because they are going to see how you are dressed.

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  100. That skirt is amazing! Love the colour so much! <3 <3

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  101. It is a conundrum... whether to dress to appeal to the male gaze, how much to try to appeal-- and what is "overboard"? If a woman dresses "too much" to appeal to the male gaze, she often isn't taken seriously in he work and intellectual pursuits. If she doesn't appeal enough to the male gaze... she gets cracks like Hillary Clinton does, about cancels and pantsuits. We just can't win.

    I love this sculptural look of the outfit in this post, it's just lovely.

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  102. Loved the post ! The pictures turned out great and it looks like you had a lot of fun

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  103. Such a great colour combination!

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